Lord knows how hard it can be to summarize oneself in just a few words. Let's face it, it’s not easy to write a profile that is both captivating and concise. That's why we thought we'd put together this little "How To" on writing an appealing profile.
Tips to make your profile highlight the real you and give a glimpse into your personality. as well as captivate and get responses from the right people!
Be Casual
When you sit down to write your profile imagine that you just casually met someone at your favorite café, coffee shop or a friend’s party. Imagine what you’re telling them about yourself.
Your dating profile is just an online extension of that chance meeting.
Potential Mates want to know the same things, give them the most relaxed you.
Make your 200-250 words work for you. Keep your profile fun and interesting by mixing concrete info about yourself with a dash of humor and wit. Use 150-200 words to discuss yourself, and 50-100 words describing the person you are looking for. Be as charismatic and exciting as you are in person.
Be Inviting
Remember, this is a first conversation with someone you’re very interested in. Talk about the places where you have lived and cultures you have been exposed to. This will spark dialogue with people who either share your experiences or want to know more about them. People are always interested in other places and cultures. Having lived internationally will definitely intrigue your faith mate. Offer a chance to find a connection through your genealogy (e.g My family was orignally from the Deep South). Similarly, speaking a foreign language can attract attention.
If you’re new to your city, mention that. New faces are always intriguing. Aren’t you usually eager to play tourist guide? They can also ease your settling process; even if no sparks fly, you can always make some good friends. You might even meet someone else new to the area and you two can discover it together.
Give a brief synopsis of schools you have attended, jobs you have held, and your long-term career goals. Don't we usually talk about we do? It makes sense to write about in a dating profile.
If you have children, share a little about them. They are an important part of your life so don’t leave them out. Avoid telling too much, but you want to come across as a normal parent so talk about their ages, and whether or not they live with you. (Don't use this space to talk a lot about them… your potential partner is more interested in YOU)
Be Real
Tell your faith mate what you do for fun. Use your imagination; take the liberty to be witty and intriguing. State your social preferences: go out or stay in? Many friends or a small circle? Bowling, movies, or skiing? Pets or no pets? Give enough of a glimpse into your social life to make your readers want to join you.
Be clear and fair to yourself when talking about whom you want to meet. State your requirements and preferences without limiting yourself unnecessarily. If women with children are out, say so. If you do not want to go out with club-hoppers, mention it clearly in your profile. Only restrict potential mates here with items that you are very sure you absolutely want or do not want in a potential partner. Share whether you are looking for a stable relationship or if you are just looking to meet someone to hang out with to see how things go from there.
All in all, keep it real. Being honest about who you are and what you want will save you a lot of time and effort guide you right to your faith mate.
Check Out This Book:
World Wide Search: The Savvy Christian's Guide to Online Dating The search for a special relationship via the Internet holds great promise, but also significant risk. Fortunately, World Wide Search guides you in the right direction, makes you aware of the dangers, and prepares you to enjoy the unique blessings of dating online. Whether you are new to online dating or simply looking for ways to improve your approach, this is the supportive, trustworthy guide you need to help you succeed as you seek "the one" online.
By Cheryl Green
In today's fast-paced world, singles are turning to the Internet in the hopes of finding a relationship that goes deeper than superficial conversation. With so much happening online, how can you know the best place to start and how to proceed?
