Tips For Dating

We all know how important it is to put God first in your life. A Christian marriage takes serious preparation. Read the Bible; attend a church. Study God's wisdom for marriage, husbands and wives. The Bible gives us one very important instruction in this area, and that is to be "equally yoked". (II Corinthians 6:14) Study and understand what this really means!

KNOW THY SELF Take the time to make any necessary changes YOU may need so that you can become a good partner to someone. Happiness will never come in marriage if you’re not first happy with yourself.

KNOW THY NEEDS You must know what your needs are so that you can communicate them to a potential partner. These are the things you cannot compromise on! Ask your partner what his/her needs are. Find out whether the two of you can meet these needs for each other. We can't even begin to tell you how important this really is! If a potential partner cannot meet your needs during the courting stage, there’s no way he/she will meet them during marriage.

KNOW THY SIGNS Learn to accept the red flags that come up while dating. The realization that someone you’re dating is not your "special someone" is half the battle. You could spend a lifetime trying to make a relationship work that was never designed to work. Everyone has good and bad qualities. Just because you may not be suited for someone does not mean that that person would not be a great partner for someone else! If it's not "right", respect yourself and that person enough to let go. The longer you wait, the harder it is to detach. Both of you deserve to be with the right person, and have happy lives.

KNOW THY FEARS Don't live in fear about the possibilities that you may be single in your lifetime. Fear breeds insanity while dating! And no one wants to marry an insane person. Your needs won't matter at all! You will make extremely foolish decisions if this fear takes over. Fill your life with the things are fulfilling. Give it to God and LEAVE it with HIM!

KNOW THY LIMITS Excessive abusers: functioning alcoholics, weekend binger's, substance abusers, etc., and the like, are "UNAVAILABLE" for committed relationships. These individuals need help and disease makes them, for the moment, unable to sustain a healthy relationship. It is impossible by God's standards to worship anything above Him! God must always come first! This type of "relationship" will only lead to continual hurt. Always encourage, as much as possible, that they seek the help they so deserve, so that one day they can experience the life that God has intended for them. For Christian Resources for recovery on the internet, go to Christians In Recovery

KNOW THY FRIENDS Seek wise counsel to assist you in making the right decision. Marriage is A COMMITMENT, for LIFE. You owe it to yourself to choose wisely.

Finding the right mate and making a lifetime commitment to that person is a wonderful gift from God. Allow these tools, and others to help you begin your journey towards lifelong, permanent relationships!


God Bless.